We often talk about our ailments with ease yet the thought of letting people hear about our inner scars is often regarded as taboo and that may prevent us asking for help when we really need it.

Psychological treatments have significantly changed over the last few years.  You no longer need fear being carted off by people wearing white coats because modern science has expanded our understanding of the human brain to such an extent that it often takes only a brief treatment to start seeing a beneficial change.

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No need to fear those people in white coats

One in four adults experience psychological problems each year.  Depression, anxiety and stress can occur for any number of reasons;  financial problems, work pressure, relationship or family breakdown, physical illness, or even natural biological changes.

Life’s ups and downs affect us all but we each react in different ways.  I find the most damaging problem isn’t always the depression or anxiety itself, but how hard we punish and blame ourselves for being weak and not being able to ‘snap’ ourselves out of it.

First you need to break the vicious cycle with acceptance…

Blaming yourself only adds to the emotional burden you may already be carrying.  If instead you seek to better understand your brain’s processes and seek a treatment that works in conjunction with your natural brain function then changing the way you feel can be as simple as just changing the way you think.  Don’t punish yourself for being human, reward yourself for realising that you were able to notice a bug in your software and then go out and fix it before it gets worse.

…then practice techniques that modify the way your brain functions

Our thoughts impact everything and changing unhelpful thoughts to realistic or helpful ones are part of the key to feeling better.  “Realistic thinking” means looking at yourself, others, and the world in a balanced and fair way, without being overly negative, positive or judgmental.

Short therapeutic treatments can help equip you with the practical skills and tools you need to solve your own problems and restore happiness and balance in your life.  By identifying negative thinking and replacing it with new balanced thoughts you can learn to manage future problems more confidently and mindfully.

QUICK TIP:

Cognitive Behaviour Modification:

  1. Make a 3 column diary on some paper
  2. Each time you do a task write down the date and what you did in columns 1 & 2
  3. In the 3rd column list adjectives that describe the positive qualities that you displayed in doing that task (even if you think you failed, something good occurred)
  4. Dedicate yourself to the diary for 2 weeks

 

WHY THIS WORKS:

We’re all black-belts at criticising ourselves and novices at rewarding ourselves.  By training yourself to look for any positive qualities in each task you are physically creating new neural pathways for balanced thinking, you’re literally altering the structure of your brain.  Very soon these rarely traversed pathways become the norm and you’ll find yourself naturally balancing your thoughts without much effort.

Try it and see for yourself

The more you learn about how your brain works the stronger you become

I’ve made a Positive Thoughts Dairy FREE for you to download from my Resources page HERE

It’s packed full of fresh adjectives to help you construct your new positive neural pathways over the next 2 weeks.  You can also still download my FREE Mindfulness MP3 popping your name and email in the box on the right.  I don’t do spam and your details are 100% secure.  This is just to keep my own work secure and free from internet Bots.

Positive psychology is about subtly teaching our brain new ways to think.  

If you like this technique or others from previous articles then you will love our face-to-face therapy sessions.  Call or email me directly for a free & confidential chat.

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